Why should I try counseling? Does it really work?

Simply put, you should try counseling because can work. People generally try counseling because they want relief from some combination of psychological and/or social stressors. Any internet search on “the effectiveness of counseling” will show that people do, in fact, find therapy helpful. Now, what actually brings about the change is complicated. There are many variables involved in the process; however, two variables are largely considered to be most impactful in bringing about change. First, the relationship between the therapist and client is paramount. The therapeutic relationship is unique in that it is not reciprocal. With most intimate relationships, including family and friends, a mutual emotional investment and responsibility exists. In other words, both parties give and take for the benefit of one another. This is not the case in the therapist-client relationship. The therapeutic relationship is a one-way interaction where the therapist only gives, and the client only receives. Both parties are working towards the benefit of the client. This dynamic tends to foster greater transparency, and as a result, greater insight. When this is combined with a therapist that is able to demonstrate warmth, empathy, and what the famous therapist, Carl Rogers, called “unconditional positive regard,” then transparency combines with trust. The end result is a working relationship that hopefully brings about change.

We said that there are two significant variables that make counseling effective; the first factor is the nature of the therapeutic relationship discussed above. The second variable, which is equally, if not more important in bringing change, comes from you, the client. The same internet search will also yield research indicating that client factors like “motivation” and “accepting responsibility” are just as impactful. Thus, to some extent, you should try counseling because it works. However, many times, it works when you are determined to make it work.

Lastly, Albert Einstein’s definition of insanity comes to mind. I’m sure you’ve heard it: doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. With this in mind, you should try counseling, because at least it is something different. If you are reading this, then I am going to guess that you feel any number of painful or confusing emotions, not the least of which is desperation. Most people choose counseling when they don’t know what else to do. There is an old adage I love which says, “When you’ve done all you can do, and you don’t know what else to do, do something different!

Oh, and one more thing: You should try counseling, because you are worth it!

When can I make an appointment?

We try to be as flexible as possible to meet the needs of our clients. The best way to determine availability is simply to call! Many times we may be in session and unable to immediately answer your call; please leave a confidential voice message, and your call will be returned promptly, usually within 24 business hours.  Remember to leave your name, contact number, and the best time(s) to reach you. We also ask that you let us know whether or not messages can be left at your contact number, in the interest of your confidentiality.

I’ve scheduled my first appointment. What do I do now?

Please see the FORMS PAGE to get additional information on the required forms. We will either email them to you, or provide a link for you to complete them in our client portal. Please take the time before your first session to provide as much information as you are willing by filling out the provided forms. Completing forms prior to your arrival will allow you and your therapist to begin the treatment process sooner.

How long will I be in therapy?

Everyone has different needs and goals for therapy, which means the length of therapy differs, as well. When you meet with your therapist, a brief history will be discussed and the presenting problem will be identified.  At that time, you, along with your therapist will agree on a therapy schedule and goals.  Sessions are usually recommended to begin as weekly or biweekly, decreasing in frequency as treatment goals are reached. On occasion, more frequent sessions may be recommended in order to reach a point of stability.

Do you work with couples and/or families?

Yes, our practice works with individuals, couples, and families.

How long is a therapy session?

Most therapy sessions last 45-50 minutes. However, we also offer 60-minute and 90-minute sessions. When working with children between the ages of 7-11, it is often difficult for them to focus on therapy for lengthy periods of time. As a result, we offer a 30-minute session available to children who require shorter time spans.

What is your fee?

We have a variety of session lengths and services available. Please see our FEES PAGE for details.

What methods of payment do you accept?

We accept cash, checks, credit and debit cards. Payment is due at the time of service, before the session begins. Please be aware that there will be a $30 fee for returned checks.

I’m in therapy, and I don’t believe this is a good fit. What should I do?

Have a conversation! It may feel awkward, but most therapists are aware that they will not be the best fit for everyone who is seeking assistance. We most want you to find the place/person with whom you can work towards your goals. If that is not the person that you’re currently seeing in our practice, talk to us. If the conclusion is reached that you will be a better fit with another therapist, we will gladly refer you to a professional who may be better suited to meet your needs!

 

If you still have a question, let us know!